Woman Demands Postnup After Husband’s Ex Surprises Him With a 13 Year Old Daughter

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 30, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome people of the internet. There are countless and incredulous stories to read about…endless dramas and situations that seem nightmarish if you were in them, but somehow entertaining from the side. 

Life can throw a lot of curveballs at you, and you need to be prepared for them in any situation. One could never predict what's coming around the corner, but being adaptive to outward situations is the first step to coming to terms with the unknown. 

Finding out your husband has a kid with his ex that he didn't even know about is too ridiculous it's almost unbelievable. What would you do in that situation? It's not like it's his fault, but now you're suddenly Mrs. Step Mother against your consent. Would you leave your man, or stay by him and swallow the pill of motherhood? Read the full story to find out what happens. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH • 23 hr. ago One_Sun_2607 AITAH for wanting a postnup with my husband after finding out he has a child?
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    Recently, my husband's ex from high school showed up saying they had a child together 13 years ago and their daughter now wants to get to know him.
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    They broke up right after high school and went to different unis. They were already broken up when she found out she was pregnant and since she wanted to go to med school, her parents offered to take care of the baby, but apparently banned her from telling my husband.
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    I'm 100% supportive of my husband getting to know his daughter, but at the same time, I have some financial concerns.
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    I came into this marriage with more assets, I earn more than him and financial stability is very important to me. The thought of something happening to him and losing part of my assets to his child terrifies me.
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    Sharing everything with my husband never bothered me before, because that's part of marriage, but him suddenly having a daughter is not what | signed up for. Therefore I want a postnuptial agreement that protects my assets.
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    When I told this to my husband, he got very frustrated with me, saying that he just found out he has a daughter and he wasn't in her life for the first 13 years. He is still in shock and one of the first things I do is come at him with a postnup, making it seem like I'm preparing to divorce him.
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    I think I'm justified in wanting a postnup and I've spent the last 2 months being extremely supportive of him and helping him manage this situation. I don't see why wanting a peach of mind for myself is that bad, but one of my friends also said that I'm kind of an for bringing up a postnup and it's not like my husband is likely to die anytime
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    postnup and it's not like my husband is likely to die anytime soon that makes me really need this. AITAH?
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    ghostoftommykn... • 21h ago ΝΤΑ. Your husband now has financial and blood inheritance complications that you didn't know about going into the marriage (and, in fairness, neither did he). The potential fate of your assets are not what you
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    signed up for. Why is she telling your husband now? Her motives could be innocent. Her motives could be something else. But you have to consider the rammifications of him establishing paternity, wanting a relationship and possible
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    back payments of child. support. And it sounds like any legal or child maintenance costs will be disproportionately paid for by you rather than him because of your greater wealth.
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    So, you can't afford to wait for your husband to come to terms with the shock of his life. He is in an emotional rollercoaster right now, but there are financial and legal repurcusions that might begin sooner rather than later. Someone has to think about that.
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    You should ask for legal advice -- not just for you, but on behalf of your husband, too.
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    You should also bear in mind that finances, assets, legal consequences and inheritances are the last thing on his mind right now. So you probably will sound cold, ruthless and selfish to him right now.
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    So, NTA for being concerned and wanting to get this addressed sooner rather than later, but do make sure you are compassionate and empathic about this situation and the emotional toll all of this will be having on your husband. You can do this in an empathic way or an way, make
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    sure it's the former and not the latter.
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    camkats 22h ago NTA this mom could sue him for back child support and current support. OP needs to ensure everything is based her husband and not joint income or assets. I think she's smart for this. I think it's important to do it quickly- I would ask for the same. I'm sure he was shell
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    shocked but so was she. We are talking paying for school, cars, college, insurance etc. it's important to get ahead of it.
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    throwaway-forreal • 20h ago INFO: have you spoken with a lawyer? A post nup may not protect you from what you're describing. You may be starting a fight that won't get you anything.
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    BorderNo1064 • 22h ago NTA. You gave him 2 months. The news is big but he's an adult and life isn't always gonna be smooth sailing. He had his shock and now he needs to prepare and so do you. Protect yourself and your assets
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    Penners99 22h ago First, get a DNA test. The result will determine the rest
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